Tender age of childhood is not for harsh realities. They are for the adults; the children can flourish only in an atmosphere of happiness and security. You cannot expect them to act according to the change in the situations that happen in the outer world. For them, their home is the only nest and your warmth is the strongest guarantee that they are safe.
A Few days before conditions were fine, suddenly things changed upside down, and you lost the job. Everything in the house is the same and at its place, but the most important thing, finances lose their order.
Gradually all aspects from the monthly budget to weekend amusement park visits are sure to come under pressure of suffocated financial circumstances. It is natural to get into the stress of monetary crisis and future uncertainties.
Kids may look small, but they notice even the slightest change in the atmosphere quite fast. Here emerges another front of fight for you as anyhow your little humans should not get the idea that something has gone wrong.
The stress in the home spreads with speed and makes the moments more bulky. With the struggle to find the new job, you have to make sure that things remain normal for the family.
There can be some ways to make the efforts work in the right direction –
Focus on the finances first – Arrange funds through savings, loans, etc.
From the daily nourishment needs of your toddler(s) to his/her daily care stuff that you buy, all are important. Nothing from the list can be missed. It is better to pay heed to the money factor first.
Try every possible way to gather some valuable pennies. Like –
- Savings are the saviors, but they may be insufficient and may exhaust soon. If the attainment of the next employment opportunity is uncertain in time, use every penny wisely.
- Borrowing funds from a lender can be the last option but not completely avoidable, as loans for unemployed are available. Online lenders provide them with easy-to-qualify conditions on instant approval decision. At least, try.
- Sell off some old stuff to generate immediate money. The concepts like yard sale can help earn ready money, which can be used for daily expenses.
Do not stop the conversation
A father who is busy in struggling with the bills, a mother who repeatedly says ‘go and play outside’, can make the home environment dull. Unemployment indeed makes everything topsy-turvy in life, but your children are innocent. They have nothing to do with whatever is going on. The financial crisis already makes them compromise in many of their desires in the name of money-saving.
May be their conversation with you is the only support to feel normal about everything. Not only adults, but the little ones too get serious about things. sometimes they do not even express the emotional change they are going through. A talk of care at the dinner table, the light fun while reading bedtime stories, keeps the tiny souls rejuvenated. They should not feel lonely.
Tell the reality in polite words and ask to work as a family team
Shouting at kids, asking them to not demand things, or act stubbornly only makes the situation worst. Sit with them and tell them that you want their help to get through a difficult time. The family needs to work as a team.
The minors act amazingly responsible when you make them feel like a big girl/big boy. They enjoy the feel of being taken seriously and do the best possible to support you. This is the best opportunity to make a strong bonding as the bad times bring people closer.
Do not fight in front of them
When you tell your child to not fight with others and act with manners, the same rules apply equally to your behavior. Due to complicated conditions, sometimes intense stress intrudes in the relationship of husband and wife. It results in loud fights and the atmosphere at home changes drastically.
Never fight in front of the child; you must have heard the stories of frustrated people who had a bad childhood. Do you want to give the same to your kiddie too? Certainly not. Quarrel in family obstructs the development of confidence in kids. Do not let that happen.
Final thought is……
Good and bad days happen in recurrence but the ultimate thing that stays forever is the family. That should not confront any permanent damage, as every other thing is volatile in this world but not the love of the loved ones. Do not let the roots shake, no matter if you have to ask for a bit help from others or need to take unemployed loans to feed the needs. The people in a household should always stay together and kids should be given special care.